Dr. Seuess Had It Right....

My youngest child is fascinated by the book, Oh! The Places You'll Go! and in this book, so much wisdom can be found, especially for those of you who are in what Dr. Seuess calls, The Waiting Place. Granted, it is not a fun place to be, I do not know of many who like to be there, and waiting out The Waiting Place can take anywhere from a few hours to a few years. Yes, years. Sometimes things take years to get them where you want them to be. Two key things The Waiting Place always requires are patience and a willingness to focus and work on other things (or sometimes that particular goal) while you are there. Remember, even if you are not working on the specific thing you are caught up in The Waiting Place for, there is always something you can be doing to enrich, improve, to better your life be it financially, emotionally, or spiritually. 


I am often met by clients who are frustrated that their desires/issues cannot or will not be fixed in a short period of time, usually meaning a few days.  First, remember that most situations or issues did not develop in a few days (even if they were suddenly sprung upon you) and rarely can they be fixed in that amount of time. Do not be unrealistic about how long it takes to resolve a matter. Also, do not invest fruitless effort(s) into things/people/places that are not healthy for you. While in that place of waiting, evaluate, truly evaluate, from a removed perspective, the usefulness of that thing or person you are waiting on and be honest with yourself: is it worth the waiting, the time invest by you, the investment of effort by you?  The most essential lessons you can take from this are, one: psychics are not the answer to all your problems. Visiting us does not mean your problems will be solved and certainly not instantly.  We simply offer you a view of the future based on a snippet you give us. Secondly, there are times you will be in The Waiting Place. Accept that in this "on demand world", "waiting is something you'll do quite a lot" (Dr. Seuss, Oh The Places You'll Go)

Being the "other" Person

Being in a proverbial "love triangle" is a complicated situation. There are many reasons people cheat and choose to cheat with people they know are married. Those reasons can range from lust to feeling a true connection with that person. However, all too often, the "third wheel" is left waiting, hoping, clinging to the "some day" that will never come.

After doing some reading on this subject from some wise people, I have come to conclude the "why" of a person choosing someone already taken. I proffer that it is usually because a) they either lack self-esteem and feel this is more of a "safe relationship" (if you can call it a relationship) or b) they are actually afraid of a real relationship, real committment, their real dream, even though they will tell you they want the whole nine yards: marriage, bliss, sometimes kids, the perfect home, with the perfect man.


Without judging why people cheat on their spouses, for one, the person is not so perfect if they are inclined to cheat. Secondly, with rare exception, you can bet if this person ever left their spouse for you, they would still have roaming, wondering eye.  Which leads me to the most important piece of this article, the waiting game.  Promises of leaving, plans made, the third person believes it is all hammered out. The other spouse is a shrew or horrible man, the divorce papers are pending and/or signed, all that is left is for things to be finalized.


The problem is days stretch into weeks, weeks stretch into months, and months stretch into years and yet you still hold onto the illusion of being with this "perfect" person. Now, having read all of this, step back, examine this person. Are they really so perfect? Are they really for you? What about the time you could have been open to someone kind, loving, caring, reading for a serious committment that was available to be yours.

Consider also the collateral fallout. What about the spouse, that husband or wife who is being betrayed, being cheated on. Are they really as bad as the person paints them to be? Even if you have witnessed them in action, you have only glimpsed a small part of who they are. Do you really think it likely the cheating spouse is going to say, "Oh yes, my spouse is the perfect person! That's why I'm here with you.  What about children, relatives, jobs, homes and mortgages, debts, all of these things that you turn butt over tea kettle by being the "other person".

Bottom line, until that spouse is free, they are not yours to have and the real truth behind being the third person is this: You are likely to always to be second fiddle, you have no right to expect to be first. That means you have no right to be angry over missed "dates", phone calls, unreturned texts, e-mails, etc because you are just that, no matter what they say, you are second fiddle and their spouse, children, families, jobs, etc are all before you.

If you want a real relationship, stop chasing the gold at the end of the rainbow, those leprauchons are sneaky buggers.  If you are afraid to be truly available, to be in a real relationship, carry on, but remember the very real possible consequences for some people whom you have probably never met. Evaluate your station in this person's life. Honest step back and evaluate the chances of you ever becoming that person's spouse. Then ask yourself, "Knowing what I know, would I really want to be their spouse?" If you ever did become their spouse, think of the train wreck of baggage from what you helped destroy you would be carrying along with you.

If you are the third person, this is not meant to guilt you. It is meant to cause you to stop and think.  What is the reality of the situation? Helen Keller once said, People do not like to think. If one thinks, one must reach conclusions. Conclusions are not always pleasant.  When you stop and truly step back and examine your situation, what real conclusions do you draw?

Following up on the previous post

A felllow psychic and quite insightful lady, Azzrian Visions shared this and I thought it was a good follow-up/add on to my previous blog entry.

Good Timber

For sun and sky and air and light,

That stood out in the open plain

And always got its' share of rain ....

Never became a forest king.

But lived and died a scrubby thing.

The man who never had to toil,

In facing challenge did recoil,

Who never had to win his share

Of sun and sky and light and air...

never became a manly man,

But lived and died as he began.

Good timber does not grow in ease.

The stronger wind, the stronger trees,

The farther sky the greater length,

The more the storm the more the strength.

By son and cold, by rain and snows,

In tree or man, good timber grows.

Where thickest Stands the forest growth

We find the patriarchs of both...

And they hold the converse with the stars

Whose broken branches show the scars

Of many winds and much of strife...

This is the common law of life.

Author unknown

Patience and the Art of Waiting

“All human wisdom is summed up in two words - wait and hope” Alexander Dumas
“Patience is the companion of wisdom.”Leo Tolstoy
“He that can have Patience, can have what he will”



It's a fact: we live in a fast food, on-demand, right here, right now, society.
This makes it difficult when there are times we have to wait, when the answers or solutions are not immediate. But we must remember our lives are not a McDonald's Drive-thru, our lives are, well, to state the obvious, our lives. I'm sure we've all heard as a child from an elder or our parents, "anything worth having is worth waiting for", well, there's a lot of truth to that adage. The best things in life are usually hardly obtained in an instant, they are obtained through hard work, patience, and non-passively waiting.

GORGED ON A FAST FOOD WORLD- Visiting a Psychic-NOT the magic pill for what ails you

There seems to be a broad and wide-spread misconception amongst many who visit a psychic(s). It's the same misconception that some who believe in prayer as the answer to their problems. This myth, which runs deep and is wide-spread, must be debunked.


Visiting a psychic (or even praying) is not a magic panacea for what ails you. Be it problems in love, relationships (all-family and love), finances, and/or career, simply visiting a psychic will not cure your problems. Psychics are not god, nor are they magic wand wavers.


We have (in developed nations) come to gorge ourselves on a "fast food lifestyle" and we want everything instantly, all with minimal to no work at all involved. And sadly, the world is turning out inventions that make this type of lifestyle easier and more obtainable every day.


When you visit a psychic, you should stand clear that the psychic is not going to and is not able to solve your problems. Simply speaking with one will not make your life magically better. A psychic reading can provide you with guidance, insight, a different perspective, and some compassionate guidance, even perhaps, some ideas or suggestions of solutions to your problem(s). BUT you must, absoltely must, put in the necessary efforts to get where you want to be. Yes, work on your part is required. A winning combination you can get from your psychic is to be prepared to work out a plan of action together and then actually follow through and do those things. But never expect to do nothing and never expect results to be quick, sometimes things take days, weeks, months, or even years to pan out.


~I do not know anyone who has gotten to the top without hard work. That is the recipe. It will not always get you to the top, but it will get you pretty near. ~ Margaret Thatcher


~I'm a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it. ~ Thomas Jefferson


~ You'll never succeed in idealizing hard work. Before you can dig mother earth you've got to take off your ideal jacket. The harder a man works, at brute labor, the thinner becomes his idealism, the darker his mind. ~
D.H. Lawrence

Blame Hallmark

Valentine's Day is fast approaching and for a psychic, that means a lot of lonely, hurting, and sometimes desperate people seeking readings on their love lives and more often than not, their lack of one. I'm going to insert some pretty blunt truths here but also offer some compassion and some views on being alone that, if this day is dreaded and/or difficult for you, a little bit easier.


First of all, blame Hallmark. Blame the diamond commercials, blame the chocolates and restaurant commercials. These play a huge part into why a day that is really no different than any other, suddenly becomes a huge focus in our lives. These companies, with their snazzy advertising, somehow cause us to feel less if we don't have someone in our lives. Well first, stop! Take the power back. Don't let Hallmark, Godiva, Zales, or Outback Steakhouse make you feel less because your alone this day of the year. The truth is you were alone before February 14th and you may be alone, possibly for quite some time, after February 14th. Stop making your focus this day, even though you're bombarded by it in the stores, on the radio, and on the television, YOU have the power to decide the importance of this day, not huge conglomerates. Remember these commericals also idealize and spin a "fairy tale" on the day. Real life just isn't like what they show, even in the best of relationships.




Second, remember, "all things in due time". This may not be your time to be with someone. If you've been single for quite sometime and are thinking, "yeah, but it's never my time. Re-think. A lot of times we expect that God or some other entity in the universe is going to drop someone on our doorstep via FedEx. That only happens in the movies. It just may not be your place, in your life, at this time, to be in a relationship. Celebrate this because you don't want to be in one at the wrong time and have all the wrong things to work out. Also, consider your lifestyle. Is it one that allows you to interact with a range of new people so you have a chance of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right?



Third, while you're alone, learn to celebrate that! Think of it as celebrate the "art" of being alone. Remember, relationships are a lol of work. Also, remember that being alone gives you time to work on you which may be the whole reason the universe wants you to be alone right now anyway, it knows that you have not worked on certain aspects of yourself and these need to be worked out first.


Finally, because so many people ask about "soul mates" or "twin flames" on this day, see my follow up posts on these matters. Soul mate connections are the hardest and most difficult you will ever endure. They will put your life and your faith through the ringer, they are no Cinderella story.


My final message here: Take the power back, stop allowing one day of the year to control so much of your month in February, stop allowing it to take over your emotions, your body, your thoughts. It's one day and many, many people in this world are alone and the many people in relationships don't live out a life like what the television shows you Valentine's Day should be like.


Love and light to you all!

Daisy Chain

*This article is written largely from the female perspective but "she" can and often is just as interchangeable as "he".

"He loves me, he loves me not...." Often when a client comes to me asking, "should I stay? Is it worth it?" I can visualize them weighing their choice by the daisy petals they pull off, yet, somehow always managing to land on, "he loves me".

Let's cover a few things about what love is: love is gentle, kind, not envious, it is forgiving, and it is not selfish. Now this is ideal love, there is no one on this planet that is all of these things all of the time but if you find yourself asking, "should I stay?", why are you asking that? I rarely tell a client straight-out "yes" or "no", except in extreme circumstances, my role is as a bystander. I am here to show you available paths and likely outcomes based on where you and your partner currently are. But if someone, especially early on, exhibits behavior that is rude, demeaning, neglectful, selfish, or careless, chances are that behavior will continue and will worsen. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. (Allowing room for change and people who truly transform, of course, but we are creatures of habit.)

The last thought I want to leave you with on this is: We teach people how to treat us. If you stay when someone is mean, degrading, selfish, or any number of inappropriate and unhealthy actions for a good, solid relationship, and they continually repeat that behavior, you are signaling to them that it is okay for them to run over you like that. Never stay for fear of being alone or because someone has convinced you that this person is your one and only "soul mate". That's a topic for another article but this is a big, wide world, full of all kinds of people. There is someone else, someone caring, loving, and healthy for you out there. Why are you holding yourself back from finding them?


As hard as it may be, you often do not need me to answer the question of, "should I stay?" and you also don't need a daisy chain either.