Do Your Expectations Set You Up for Failure?

As we age, we become (hopefully) more self-aware. This includes awareness of ourselves and others. We learn what we like in a person and what we cannot stand.  We learn that the person that chews with their mouth wide open on the first date just will not lead to a second date. But do we set our expectations so high, so out of reach, so beyond reality, that we doom ourselves to failure?


Sometimes we may need to evaluate that question and find out if it is part of the problem in why we remain single.  This is not the equivelant to settling. It is looking realistically at where we are in our own lives and what we therefore can expect from and in others.  Do not lessen your standards, but write them down and size them up with the chance of reality, with the chance of you actualizing them. Perhaps instead of lessening our standards, we simply need to readjust them,


Be mindfull to have a list of what is acceptable and what is not, ie: rude behavior is not okay, good manners are, but also be aware of the limits you place on who you could meet the longer your list of "must haves" is.