Blame Hallmark

Valentine's Day is fast approaching and for a psychic, that means a lot of lonely, hurting, and sometimes desperate people seeking readings on their love lives and more often than not, their lack of one. I'm going to insert some pretty blunt truths here but also offer some compassion and some views on being alone that, if this day is dreaded and/or difficult for you, a little bit easier.


First of all, blame Hallmark. Blame the diamond commercials, blame the chocolates and restaurant commercials. These play a huge part into why a day that is really no different than any other, suddenly becomes a huge focus in our lives. These companies, with their snazzy advertising, somehow cause us to feel less if we don't have someone in our lives. Well first, stop! Take the power back. Don't let Hallmark, Godiva, Zales, or Outback Steakhouse make you feel less because your alone this day of the year. The truth is you were alone before February 14th and you may be alone, possibly for quite some time, after February 14th. Stop making your focus this day, even though you're bombarded by it in the stores, on the radio, and on the television, YOU have the power to decide the importance of this day, not huge conglomerates. Remember these commericals also idealize and spin a "fairy tale" on the day. Real life just isn't like what they show, even in the best of relationships.




Second, remember, "all things in due time". This may not be your time to be with someone. If you've been single for quite sometime and are thinking, "yeah, but it's never my time. Re-think. A lot of times we expect that God or some other entity in the universe is going to drop someone on our doorstep via FedEx. That only happens in the movies. It just may not be your place, in your life, at this time, to be in a relationship. Celebrate this because you don't want to be in one at the wrong time and have all the wrong things to work out. Also, consider your lifestyle. Is it one that allows you to interact with a range of new people so you have a chance of meeting Mr. or Mrs. Right?



Third, while you're alone, learn to celebrate that! Think of it as celebrate the "art" of being alone. Remember, relationships are a lol of work. Also, remember that being alone gives you time to work on you which may be the whole reason the universe wants you to be alone right now anyway, it knows that you have not worked on certain aspects of yourself and these need to be worked out first.


Finally, because so many people ask about "soul mates" or "twin flames" on this day, see my follow up posts on these matters. Soul mate connections are the hardest and most difficult you will ever endure. They will put your life and your faith through the ringer, they are no Cinderella story.


My final message here: Take the power back, stop allowing one day of the year to control so much of your month in February, stop allowing it to take over your emotions, your body, your thoughts. It's one day and many, many people in this world are alone and the many people in relationships don't live out a life like what the television shows you Valentine's Day should be like.


Love and light to you all!